Constructive ways to deal with criticism
We all must deal with things we do not like to hear. We are labeled because of our shortcomings and judged on the basis of our failures and mistakes. The common reaction is to block out feedback. However, doing so may discourage personal growth. A recent Psych Central article highlighted prosocial ways to deal with criticism:
- Take time to cool down, set boundaries, and respond, not react. Instead of lashing back, take a timeout. Walk away until you are more receptive to the feedback. During this break, refocus your thoughts to more positive things. Respond only after you have cooled down.
- Focus on the points, not the tone, labels, and judgement. Sometimes good advice or feedback can get lost in a poor choice of words or harsh tones. Because some people do exercise poor communication, it is crucial to focus on the ideas within the message rather than the tone, labels, or judgement.
- Use it to fuel you, not bring you down. Use the pain you feel to move forward. Using feelings of rejection and unworthiness can be used to motivate us.
- Understand where the speaker is coming from. Understand the context in which the speaker’s opinions were formed. Remember that different people have different values, priorities, aspirations, and goals. In addition, people come from different eras and are at different life stages.